Motherhood Four Years On

1 Mar 2020

Willow turned 4 in January, which honestly blows my mind because it feels like only yesterday that my partner and I were starting a family together. Now we're a family of four with a 4-year-old who will be starting Primary School later this year. The first few years of Motherhood have been, for me, like an absolute whirlwind, so I think it's safe to say I've learnt a few lessons along the way. Here are the four things that stand out to me the most, that I have learned since becoming a Mother.

A picture of a four year old toddler

001. You learn the true meaning of patience. I thought I was patient before becoming a parent, but the patience you learn as a parent is something else entirely! Little humans are not to be reasoned with (not only because reasoning is something your brain masters at an older age), sometimes you really have to pick your battles and going slow isn't always the worst thing in the world. I like to think I am far more patient now that I ever was pre-motherhood, I just hope that patience sticks around as the girls get older - teenage years, I'm looking at you!

002. You should always say yes to "...just one more bedtime story.". Encouraging a love of reading goes without saying, but even when you want bedtime to be over and done with, that extra story is worth every last word. It's those moments, those peaceful happy bedtimes, that your little ones will remember when they're older; not how much you needed to get downstairs and put the dishwasher on.

003. Tiny humans are like sponges. Yes, when they ask a trillion questions it can be frustrating, and often I have to close my eyes for a second and take a deep breath as I answer the same question for the fifth time in a row as I'm hounded with 'mummy' until it feels like nails on a chalkboard, but the way they soak up information is incredible! Taking the time to explain things, even if you've explained it before, making sure to point things out as you go about your everyday life, sharing your own experiences with your children ('pearls of wisdom'), letting them be inquisitive and helping them to learn and grow, is one of the most important things you will ever do for your child. The first few years of their lives, their 'formative years', shape their future; one day, they won't ask you for answers anymore, so take the chance to help shape their knowledge whilst you can!

004. The love you feel for your children will never stop growing. I thought the newborn stage was meant to like fairytales and then as they get older, it'd just feel like normal love, but it's not. Every single day I still feel that intense, overwhelming, heart-stopping utter adoration for Willow, and Hadley, as if it were my first day with them again. I still look at them and burst into tears because my brain simply cannot comprehend how it is possible to love someone as much as I love them. The way you love your child is unlike any other love you will experience in your life. It is unique, it is special, and it is always, always growing.