7 January 2018

3 Things I Didn't Do

When I was pregnant with Willow I had all these ideas and expectations of what parenthood would be like and things I would do, now that I was a Mother. Turns out, with the best intentions at heart, there are some things I just never had the time to do, things I completely forgot about and occasionally feel a twinge of guilt about. Here are three things I didn't do when I became a Mother.




I DIDN'T GET HER NEWBORN BABY HAND AND FOOTPRINTS DONE
Whilst pregnant I had planned to do these the day she was born, but the thought didn't even cross my mind when I was actually in labour, or after my emergency c-section. Then when we came home I said I'd do it at one week, one month, two months, every month I said "I'll do that this month" and I still haven't done it. I do feel quite guilty about this one, as she'll never be that tiny again, but I have promised myself I will get it done for her second birthday at the end of this month, which should tie in nicely with a messy afternoon of painting!

I'VE NEVER MEASURED HER HEIGHT
It's something I thought they'd do at birth during their initial checks, it's something I thought the health visitor would do during her visits and checks, turns out different counties have different rules and not all midwives and health visitors measure height anymore. That said, as Willow is almost two, I could have done myself months ago, but I am rectifying that with the purchase of a new wall height chart for Willow's bedroom. Our first measurement will be her 2nd birthday!

I DIDN'T KEEP UP HER BABY JOURNAL 
I had the best of intentions with this one and even spent months during my pregnancy hunting down the most perfect baby journal, I was very specific about what I wanted the journal to be like and hunting it down was a labour of pure love. Then, I forgot about it. I didn't have time to fill it in, I forgot it needed filling in and when I did try and fill it in, I couldn't remember the specific dates it was asking me for. One day I will dedicate an afternoon to getting it filled in and up to date, but for now, it's sitting firmly in the back of my closet.

Is there anything you said you'd do when pregnant, that you didn't do once your baby arrived?

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  1. Cant wait to see the painting! I think the baby journal is a really good idea but gosh it takes so much time!
    Pam xo/ Pam Scalfi♥

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    1. I can't wait to do it!!! Yes, it really does. I'm sure lots of people manage it just fine, but I didn't! xo

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  2. The baby hand and foot prints never appealed to me although we were given prints and clay kits as gifts to do it. Tbh it was the last thing I wanted to do after he was born, I could just about keep myself up. We requested height from our HV because they don't do it here either. The baby journal is the only thing I have done! Xx

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    1. Exactly, the newborn phase is exciting and confusing and exhausting and you get so forgetful or distracted, it's not always easy to do these things! Love that you've kept up the baby journal xo

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  3. I never liked the idea of those baby journals. We were given one as a gift and it's never been opened.
    My only regret is not having a picture of my daughter in the hospital. My phone died and we forgot to pack the camera. Some relatives have pictures but they haven't bothered to give us copies.

    Laura \\ http://thatgallowaygirl.com/
    xx

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    1. I didn't get any photos of me and Willow in hospital and it actually hurts my heart to think about it! Could you ask your relative for copies? xo

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  4. I didn't get a picture of me, my partner and baby on the day she was born.
    Mainly because I had to have stitches and then I was rushed out of bed and into the shower, it always upsets me knowing I don't have that first moment as a family of 3 documented :(

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    1. We don't have that either and it is really upsetting when I think about it. Next time I am writing a 'must remember' list of things to do when I'm not quite with it after birth! xo

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  5. I want to do the hand and foot prints but just haven’t got round to it yet – my bub is only 9 weeks though so I still feel like there’s some tiny time left! I was the same with the journal, although mine mainly focuses on the pregnancy. I wrote a few (backdated) bits when he was a month old but there’s no way I have the time or memory to do it now! One thing we did do, which I’m pleased about, is buy a couple of newspapers on the day he was born (well my mum did, I didn’t know my arse from my elbow on the day!) x

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    1. Ah you still have time, but try not to let yourself get to where I am and wish you'd done it sooner!! I love the idea of the newspapers, I wish I had done that xo

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  6. I didn't update the baby book either.... also I used to be good at putting photo albums together I have so many unfinished ones. Sarah

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    1. I have so many photos waiting to be put into albums!! xo

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  7. I HAd so many things planned for Tyler’s first year, most of which haven’t happened! Also with the height thing, I wonder why they don’t always measure them anymore? I know when I wash born/a child they did it! x

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    1. We were told they don't do it as it's not always possible to get babies to lie straight etc, but I know some people who did have the height measured! I think it must be county dependent xo

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  8. I didn't do any of these things either and sometimes I regret that when I try to remember just how tiny their hands and feet were or how big they were at certain ages!

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    1. Me too! Thankfully I took lots of photos of Willow's teeny tiny hands and feet, so hopefully they will be enough in years to come when we look back on them xo

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  9. I didn't do these exact same things! I had so many plans for the mum I would be, we were going to do baby sign language, screen time wouldn't exist, blah blah blah. It is funny how it changes though!

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    1. Oh yes! I was determined we'd do baby signing classes but they were SO expensive, I just couldn't afford it xo

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  10. I didn't do these things either, although I really regret not doing a baby journal because I love having things to look back on.

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    1. Could you perhaps do one now by memory? Or make your own! xo

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  11. I am exactly the same; I never got around to taking his hand or footprint when he was born and his height has never been measured. Which actually makes me a little sad. I HAVE managed to keep up with his baby journal and up to date with printing pictures, which I’m really glad about. I love looking back to my pregnancy and name ideas we had..

    Rachel xx

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    1. Ah so good that you're managing to keep up with the baby journal and photos though! xo

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  12. I never kept up the baby journal for my first born and I didn't even attempt one for the second. I just had no time! Was too busy being an actual mum so totally in the same boat. Don't worry, they'll forgive us xx

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  13. My biggest regret is not getting a family photo in that moment, I have a few of me and my son, and 1 of him and his dad and that's all x

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    1. We have barely any family photos and none from when she was teeny tiny! xo

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  14. I didn't get half as many pictures with Amelia as I wanted to. I was always the one taking them because I looked rough as fuck!

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    1. Haha yup, I think I'm with you there Lucie! xo

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