1 January 2016

5 Things to Try in 2016

2016 is settling in, January 1st is almost over and today has been the fresh start that many people have been looking forward to. I love January 1st, not only does it mean the start of a new beginning, a fresh new year to make your mark and accomplish all the goals you've set for the year ahead, but it's a day which brings excitement, confidence, a renewed sense of self. A day for making plans, for feeling energised and refreshed, a day where anything seems possible. My whole life January 1st, the start of a brand new year, has had an allure to it that no other day throughout the year can hold. It's a magical day, a day to be reckoned with, but this year? I'm doing things a little differently.

Instead of setting myself New Year's Resolutions, instead of making myself promises that I will accomplish this or achieve that, I'm heading into 2016 with a positive mindset, a belief that the good intentions, personal growth and new beginnings I began in 2015 will continue forth into the new year without needing to write a list of dedications and positive intent. Instead, I'm going to start off this fresh new year by sharing 5 things I tried in 2015, 5 simple things you should try in 2016. Don't think of these as resolutions, no promises or commitments to be made, just 5 little ideas passed from me to you.


001. Self-care, self-love, self-respect
Easier said than done though, right? The following 4 points all come back around nicely to this first point, as each played their own part in me achieving these things for myself in 2015, but here's some other quick tips for looking after Number 1 in 2016. 

Remember that you are the one who has to live your life, you are the only one who will look back in x amount of years when you're grey and old and reminisce on days gone by. Don't waste time now on negative intentions, negative mindsets and negative influences. Someone who may have been good for you in the past isn't necessarily good for you now and it takes more strength to walk away now and put yourself first than to keep battling in the hopes of a better day. There will always be people with bad intentions, people who will use words to try and force their negativity into your life; you can't stop their words, but you can choose how to let them affect you. The Internet can be both beautiful and dark in equal measures, but just like those words that don't deserve the space in your head, you can chose what to take from your online world. If something is having a negative effect on your mental wellbeing, turn it off, block it out, chose not to view it. 

Give yourself the confidence you're looking for. Accept compliments, don't be afraid to congratulate yourself, be proud of everything you achieve - whether it's simply getting out of bed each morning when the world is the last thing you want to face, or reaching a target you've set yourself and worked damn hard to achieve. Appreciate the hard work you put into every single moment of your life; don't look for approval from others when the most important person to seek that approval from, is yourself.

And don't forget, self-care, self-love, self-respect - it doesn't happen overnight and it's something you always have to work at, but once you start and see the way they positively benefit your mind, soul and life, the easier they are to maintain.

002. Shrug off that blogger guilt
At a time when our online personas are forever crossing over to our offline lives, the pressure to be something you're not has never been bigger. I've had online profiles and social media accounts for over 10 years, on websites which are long forgotten about until mentioned in Buzzfeed articles for being retro, yet it's only since writing this blog over the past 4 years that I have felt the pressure to come across a certain way, to have a life that fits the 'blogger ideal'

I've never been able to achieve that pristine white and marble life with whitewashed wooden floors, fairy lights and flat-lays that give you envy. It's just not me - and trust me, I've tried. Trying to make your life look Instagram worthy, your blog photos look as if they'd fit nicely into whatever is the coolest magazine to be reading right now, to have that perfect figure/face/hair/life, it's an unrealistic goal I could never reach. It made me feel rubbish, unworthy to write a blog, that the content I put out there would never be enough without that pretty backdrop. I can't tell you the amount of times I've almost bought a marble background, copper pot or picked up that roll of wooden floor wallpaper.

Sod that. Not only do I not have the space in my life for random background accessories, or the fine eye to set up that magazine shot, but it's just not me. As soon as I realised that I didn't have to have the same photos as everyone else, that I could write this blog with my own photos, my own (non-existent) photo style and ideas, the sooner I stopped worrying about being 'good enough' to call myself a blogger. Same goes for; counting numbers and obsessing over views and followers, being able to contort my body into uncomfortable shapes for Instagram shots, feeling like I have to have every latest beauty release to be relevant, giving away more of my time than I actually have to give or having an Instagram 'theme'. I don't need all of that, and neither do you. Your blog, your social media, it's all an extension of you - offer the true, unedited and unapologetic version of yourself, shrug off that blogger guilt and realise you - and your content - are enough.

003. Give yourself some downtime
Read a book. Run a hot bath. Go for a walk. Turn off the WiFi. Get stuck into a new TV series. Write. Sing. Dance. Bake. Learn a new craft. Do something that is different from how you spend most of your time. Give your brain time to unwind and your mind a chance to detox. We're not robots, we don't have an endless supply of energy, our candles do burn out and things do get too much. Give yourself some downtime, whether it's 10 minutes a day or one hour a week. Let your mind breathe. 

004. Be determined, but be realistic
There's nothing wrong with setting goals, with having ideas and projects to achieve, targets to aim for or even New Year's Resolutions, but be realistic. Don't set yourself the unachievable and beat yourself up for not reaching the finishing line. Be determined to get where you want to be, but be realistic about how to get there. It's a much healthier way to reach your goals, one which won't have you beating yourself up every time you fall down and find yourself struggling to get back up. We are all capable of great - different, but great - things. Be kind to yourself and reach for those stars, just make sure the stars you reach for are yours for the taking.

005. Let things happen
"What will be, will be". A quote I finally took note of in 2015. Letting things play out, letting my life show me my way forward, just letting things happen as they are meant to happen. It's amazing how much worry and fear melts away when you stop trying to control every tiny aspect of your life. Some things we have power over, some things we can change or mould the way we'd like them to be. Some things are meant to be no matter how much we try to make them otherwise, and letting go of the frustration, anger and anxiety that comes along with trying to force change where it's not welcome, is one of the most beneficial things you could ever do to positively benefit your life. 

For me 2015 was a year of change, a year where I learnt more about myself than ever before, a year where I let myself grow and let my life just simply 'be'. That's all I hope to achieve from 2016, to continue learning, growing, loving, caring and respecting myself, my mind, my soul. 

What about you?

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  1. This was a great read, a real unique spin on the new years posts that are around at the moment x

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    1. Thank you Sarah, I'm really glad you enjoyed my 1st post of 2016! xo

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  2. I can really relate to this. I've enjoyed the discovery of your blog so much this year although I rarely comment. In 2015 I've also started to appreciate "down time" more and more and started new hobbies. I am trying to get out of my comfort zone and be a bit more open-minded, both when it comes to activities as to people. Also I am trying to be more empathetic in general and more considerate. When things are not always going smoothly, it's easy to become wrapped up with yourself and loose sight of others and their needs. These are all things I want to continue in 2015. Sometimes you don't necessarily need to make resolutions as such, but trying to keep working on keep track of focus points. It's something I've given a lot of thought over he past few weeks.

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    1. Things I want to continue in 2016*

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    2. Thank you! I'm really glad to hear you've enjoyed reading Tattooed Tealady this year, thank you so much for coming back and reading new content each time :) I hope 2016 is a positive and happy year for you xo

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  3. I learnt loads about myself in 2015 too. I definitely agree with letting things happen!

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    1. You can't beat a year of personal growth! xo

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  4. number 2 is so true! Love this :) happy new year! Pam xo/ Pam Scalfi♥

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    1. Thank you Pam! Happy New Year to you too :) xo

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  5. Definitely taking some inspiration for 2016 from this post.. very well written!! xx

    Ciara Rose |www.ciara-rose.com

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    1. Thank you so much Ciara, I hope you have a wonderful and positive 2016 xo

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  6. I'm all about the self thing haha. I think is the best to focus on loving and respect ourselves. Love the post

    www.blossomikebana.com

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    1. Me too - plus, it's much easier to show love, care and respect to others, when you know how to love, care and respect yourself! xo

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  7. I love all of these. People's New Year reflections (which I wish they were called) have been so intuitive this year and reading through them so inspiriting.


    Chelsey | www.chelseythornton.com

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    1. Thank you Chelsey, I'm really glad to hear you enjoyed reading my 1st post of 2016! It's always lovely to see the journey's people have come on over the previous year. I wonder what accomplishments and stories we will all have to share this time next year? xo

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  8. Number 2 is so so true, something I really need to work on in 2016! Rai x

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    1. Make sure you do Rai! Blogging is such a happier place when you let go of that unnecessary blogger guilt xo

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  9. Every year I start with similar goals to keep myself happy and healthy, then I hit March and all hell breaks loose in my mind. I worry too much about what could happen rather than looking back and worrying about things I can't change or things that are going to happen, regardless how much I try to stop them. Definitely going to have to refer back to this post to make sure I look after myself in 2016. Good luck with everything this year throws at you (and I know it's a big one for you)!

    Sophie x | Essential Twenty

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    1. Thank you Sophie! I think 2016 is set to be a life-changing year for us indeed. I hope 2016 is a happy and positive year for you! Here's hoping you learn to put yourself first this year xo

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  10. I agree with everything you said! I think 'be determined but be realistic' is a very important point. We can all be a little over ambitious at times, can't we?
    www.rumbii.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. Definitely, and I don't really think there's anything wrong with that, but sometimes we can try so hard to achieve things that aren't really necessary, that it can do more damage than good! xo

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  11. Loved reading this post. Thank you for number 2 as it really struck a chord. I'm always putting myself down about my blog photos and instead envy those clear, white, marble/wooden photos. I stopped enjoying blogging last year and ending up having a huge break and it was because of things like this. Like you said, I need to stop worrying about it and be unapologetic that my photos aren't as Instagram worthy as everyone else's. xx

    Ramblings of a Beauty Bird | Beauty Blog

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    1. Ah I'm so glad you enjoyed my post, thank you! Plus, who's to say what makes a photo Instagram worthy? I like that my Instagram is a mish-mash of angles, filters, photos and random niknaks that are most likely extremely boring for everyone else! xo

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  12. Hello, I am reading your blog for the past few years and I have never comment before but I must say the above post is really inspiring and so down to earth!I can really relate to that.Keep up with the good job!

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    1. Thank you so much for reading, and for stopping by to comment Elena! Really glad to hear you found my post inspiring and down to earth. I hope you have a wonderful 2016 xo

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