5 July 2012

A bloggers opinion


Hello everyone. I have actually been debating writing this post, as I do not know how exactly it will be received. But I am finding it more difficult to keep my thoughts and opinions to myself, than to be open with you all about something which does, technically, involve us all.

When I began blogging, albeit only recently over the past three months, I began to take part in the 'bloggers chat'. This is a chat which takes place on a Sunday evening between 8pm and 9pm on Twitter using the #bbloggers hashtag. Each week it was evident a topic was chosen, and that was along the lines of everyone's tweets. One week, I wondered aloud on Twitter "Who makes up the topic each week? Who decides what we should talk about?" 

I was told that a blogger ran a poll each week, which bloggers around the World could vote on, to decide the topic each week and it is my understanding that the topics are suggested via Twitter and emails to this particular blogger. Now, this then led me to believe, ok, so this girl runs bloggers chat.

But she doesn't. As I have found out over the past week. 

Last week the bloggers chat was not to my personal liking. I took to Twitter before the chat and said I didn't find this week's chat very good, I thought the topic was actually redundant and self explanatory. I also pointed out that I would still take part, although I wasn't sure exactly what input I would even be able to rustle up, but in the meantime if anyone would like to chat to me about other things I would be happy to chat. I asked people what got them in to blogging, what they enjoy most about it, whether they find it hard or easy, etc.

A fair few people replied, both responding to my general queries and also agreeing that the chat was indeed a redundant topic this week, some even saying they would not take part.

Now, that is not an insult to whoever thought of the topic - You can never please every one, there will always be people who aren't in love with a suggestion and people who will disagree. You only have to look around the World to see that that is the case. That is life. At the end of the day I personally think a lot of people take the bloggers hashtag on Twitter far too seriously. As I found out myself on Sunday night...

After writing my tweets, I came across one from a blogger I would love to name, but I have no need to name because more than enough of you have come across her before, in the same way I am about to share. She had written a tweet declaring that if you did not like a topic, don't take part, don't use the hashtag and don't complain about it. When I saw this, I replied "I wonder who this is aimed at...."

She went on to say that it wasn't just me, and actually, she didn't know I had made any comments. Well if that was the case why start by saying "It's not just aimed at you". You cannot make a statement like that without knowing I have made my opinion clear - But as I have learnt over the years, many people back pedal when it comes to being confronted.

I told the blogger in question that the whole point of bloggers chat, surely, was to share our views, ideas and opinions. That we used the chat to be honest. I also made it very clear that no one, especially someone on the internet, should be dictating to me, an adult, what I can and can't do, and when I can and can't use a Twitter hashtag. I won't deny - as I am more than happy to hold my hands up - I got quite heated about it. I hate being dictated to. Even more so when the person tries to back pedal. Cue several tweets from various people, lots of discussion, some heated, some more relaxed. In the end I tweeted saying I had had enough and would no longer participate in bloggers chat.

This week I decided to email the girl who runs the polls for topics, I aired my views and thoughts with her, told her how I felt the way the other blogger had tweeted, reacted to me confronting her, as well as many demeaning and belittling remarks she has made to other bloggers over the weeks, were out of line. I asked, does she have anything to do with the bloggers chat? And I was told no. No, this blogger actually has nothing whatsoever to do with the chat, but was 'sticking up' for the blogger who runs the polls. 

Now, don't get me wrong - I have been in situations before when I have seen an opportunity and decided to try and put my two cents in to help. And one thing I have realised, is most people, for the most part, don't actually want that help.

I don't think the way the blogger speaks to people during blogger chats, is in any way acceptable. I don't think telling someone when they can use a public hashtag which belongs to no one, not even the chat (as it is only used for the chat to make it easier for people to find people engaging in the chat) is fair. I do not think this blogger has the right to tell people they can't post links, can't say this, can't say that.

I am an adult. I can and will say whatever I please, whenever I please. I present my opinions (for the most part) in a mature, reasonable and non-offensive manner. 

Now my main point of this post, is to gauge every one's opinion. The blogger (sorry, I know it's getting confusing but I do not wish to use direct names without permission) who runs the polls wrote a blog post, declaring we should all be nice to each other. Ok, that's fine. And that if you do not like the chat or have something positive to say, you should not use the bloggers hashtag during a Sunday evening. And this, this is what has made me want to write this post today.

If I am at home on a Sunday, blogging, chatting to friends, on Twitter, and I want to link something, or ask something, using the bloggers hashtag, I will. Regardless of whether it is inconvenient to people involved in a chat, regardless of whether I am breaking some unwritten 'rule' which dictates 'you cannot use the tag during this and this time'. That, is not on. 

The same blogger is now requesting someone else take on the responsibility of the bloggers chat poll. And I can, 100%, understand the stress it can and must be causing her. But the way I see it, we all write our own blogs, we all talk to each other, we all interact. Why on earth do we need someone to be 'in charge' of something which is not owned by anyone? Why do we need a specific topic each week? Why, if in the case we don't, do people really want to moan about it? Why does it even matter? Hardly any people actually even vote on the polls, so a few dozen votes decides what hundreds of bloggers are allowed to discuss? What happened to freedom of speech?

The bloggers hashtag is there for all of us to use it, whenever and for whatever we want. No one needs to be in charge. No one needs to run a poll. No one needs to decide topics. No one needs to feel it is up to them to tell other bloggers what they can and can't do. It takes away from the bloggers chat, it takes away from the blogging community in general. 

So that's it. This is my opinion and views. And I would really like, whether they are in agreement or disagreement, to hear yours.


**In summary. If a topic appeals to you, it should be enjoyed. If someone does not wish to take part, or airs an honest opinion about the topic, I do not think it fair that they should then be slated for it. I also do not think it fair that bloggers harmlessly using the hashtag should be 'told off' like a child, for using it. We all blog for the same reasons. To share a passion. Things like this are unnecessary.**



**Additional disclaimer - This post is meant to cause no upset or disrepect to anyone. If you would like to discuss this with me privately you are more than welcome to email me**



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  1. I agree with you. I think this is a case of maybe some people accidently over looking the bigger picture? I think when you start getting stressed about little things you start fogetting that were all actually just trying to do the same thing and this is supposed to be fun not serious.

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    1. Definitely. Like I said, I think some people take it far too seriously. There are more important things in life to worry about. I suppose that sounds a little contradictory after this post, but I really did want to know whether I was alone in my thoughts or whether people agreed, or even if there were complete different opinions out there. Thank you for sharing your thoughts xo

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  2. Well said Sophia. I used to love bbloggers chat but I am rarely around on twitter on a sunday evenings recently and therefore haven't been getting involved. I didn't feel I was missing much because I happily look through the hashtag on a monday morning instead. I'm shocked though! I don't think anyone is to blame, we are all human and we are all girls and lets face it, sometimes things go to far. But it would be a shame if people felt like they couldn't get involved because people are making 'rules' up! How ridiculous. The hash tag should be used willingly and freely! xo

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    1. I think so too. I mean, it is during the week and the rest of the time, and people get along fine. Thanks for sharing your thoughts! xo

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  3. Agreed! I think it's ridiculous that the use of a hashtag is being controlled xo

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    1. I know I'm not crazy then, if you agree! Cos you'd tell me haha <3 xo

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  4. I was in the chat last week and did mention that the chat wasnt going as well as it usually does and that like you said the topic was a bit boring but i still participated, i found certain people saying things like "just dont use the hashtag" etc to come across a lot more rude than those saying they werent too keen on the topic. I really couldn't agree more with everything you've said here xx

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    1. I agree. People who were vocal about not liking the chat, did so in a respectful manner. To then be told 'You cannot do this, you cannot say that'. Treat others as you wish to be treated. It's as simple as that. Thank you for sharing your thoughts xo

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  5. I think you're right, people do take the bloggers chat too seriously! It's supposed to be something fun, where bloggers interact with each other - who cares if we go 'off topic?'

    xo

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    1. Apparently, only a select few... Thanks for sharing your thoughts :) xo

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  6. never heard of this chat, but don't listen to that girl. you can say whatever you wanna say!

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    1. Don't worry - I have and will :) Thank you for sharing your thoughts xo

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  7. I cannot agree better Sophia. First things, you don't "own" a hashtag so nobody have the rights to deny anyone the use of it. Especially since the reason of a #bblogger one is to help link us all together to share our blogs, views, to ask for help and opinion so, restricting any access to that is pretty contradictory.
    Also, I hate it when bbloggers start getting all mean and bitchy with one another. I mean occasionally sparks may fire, that's perfectly normal. But it crosses the line when people make personal attacks... Very sadly this is still happening. Alas, no fairytale ending in life...
    I really appreciate your post for being honest, and am absolutely in favor of the idea to not have a "set" topic every Sunday! xx

    diamondinrouge.blogspot.com

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    1. I think not having a set topic, is a brilliant idea. Thanks for sharing your thoughts xo

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  8. I get what you are saying and in some ways I do agree. It's my understanding though (someone can correct me if I'm wrong?) that the blogger chat was made by a particular blogger who made the hashtag on twitter and a list of "guildlines" for those who wanted to be involved, such as not posting links during the time as it just slows down the chat with spam. Similar to a list of guildlines that are present for blog hops. This blogger asked for people to volunteer to be moderators during the chat and after a couple of months she became too busy and "passed on" the role of taking a poll and organising it. There is another hashtag, I believe it's #bbloggerspost, which is for questions/links and such.

    I just think people are defensive of how it was first set up when only a few people took part, since then it has hugely grown and not a lot of people know how it originally started. I do understand what you mean about it being controlled and I agree people take it too seriously but I don't think it would last very long without topics or without someone "organising" it each week, I'm probably wrong. I totally agree with you about last weeks chat. I saw your tweets, I don't think they should of received as much negativity as you were just stating your opinion and did say you would still be joining in! Perhaps it could be a 24/7 chat instead of just 1 hour a week, I think that might help the situation :) x

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    1. I do not know if you are right or wrong as I personally have only used the hash tag for three months. However, that said, if someone owns something, they own the copyright to that thing, whatever it is, a product, a symbol, a logo, etc. No one owns the bloggers hashtag, it is not copyrighted and therefore can be used by everyone. Thank you for sharing your thoughts xo

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    2. Misseblog, I agree completely. This is what I was trying to say in my long winded comment below haha! :)

      ~ Lauren <3
      TheCosmeticsKitten.com

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    3. i kinda agree with what's said above! i think we still need a bit of a topic to start off with otherwise everyone will be saying completely different things and it will be confusing and not usual. i agree, there should be no rules when it comes to taking part though, we should all have our opinion based on a vague topic and see where it goes from there :) xox

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    4. Sophia, I agree that no one "owns" #bbloggers. It was set up by someone, promoted and given guidelines by this person for all to use, but since passing it on and since the chat has grown I do think it should grow too and no longer have these "guildline" rules. Everyones entitled to their own opinion and obviously entitled to use some silly little hashtag but they are also entitled to create another hashtag with their own "guildlines" and promote it you know? Copyright shouldn't come into it, everything in some way or another has a copyright, the blogger would of posted that she created the #bbloggers hashtag and the post would of had a date, copyright differs depending on the country but typically that would be considered "copyrighted", although really twitter owns it lol. I hope this isn't coming across bitchy or that I'm debating with you, because I'm not. I love your blog & I completely agree with what you're saying, just wanted to point out how some people might be defensive and that :) x

      Lauren, I read your response below and I actually think you worded it better :) especially about the common courtesy & structure, so much easier than the way I wrote it ha. I think it's nice that people can chat for that 1 hour without links being spammed. I don't mind the odd link because I love finding new blogs, I just don't like the people who only participate to post their link every 2 minutes x

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    5. Nadia - I think that would be a far less chaotic approach. Thanks for sharing xo

      Misseblog - Don't worry, I don't think we are debating nor do I think you are being bitchy. The whole point of me writing this was to see what other people thought. RE the copyright - Unfortunately, by law, nothing is copyrighted unless a copyright for that particular thing is bought. It's why so many companies get away with duplicate products. I agree - The chat may have begun a long time ago, but it has progressed now and these suggestions or rules, have also outgrown the chat. I can understand people being defensive - I was myself when I responded to the tweet mentioned in the post. But that was on a personal level. I think some people can be indirectly defensive to a whole group of people, causing more upset than they realise. Which isn't very fair. And not everyone is like me and feels confident enough to voice their opinion. xo

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    6. Things (not products) have a certain amount of copyright without needing it to be purchased, well that's what my lecturer said anyways. But it does differ depending on location so maybe thats just here? Yeah I definitely think it has outgrown the rules and I really think people should think before they say something indirectly aimed at people (especially on Twitter), there's been so much drama lately and it's really not necessary. Great post, you definitely got people talking haha x

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    7. Which was of course the aim :) I studied Law at A Level and when we had to look into Copyright laws, it was said and was in our text books that for something to be owned by someone, in the terms of products, brands, etc, the Copyright has to be bought. xo

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  9. I totally agree with everything you've said, Sophia. I've personally not participated in the past few chats as I've either been busy, or the topic hasn't been anything of particular interest to me. I think at the end of the day, most of these chats boil down to people making the same points, so really what is the point of having a topic?! I think it'd run a lot better if people just chatted freely, I'm sure a theme would soon emerge each Sunday if people are discussing the same points/issues?
    I've never really understood why people get so tetchy and trying to set 'rules', nobody owns the hashtag so why are they trying to dictate when and how people should use it? xx

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    1. I wish I knew, sincerely. I kind of feel like we're all back in school. With one set of girls at one end of the playground, another at the other end. It's frustrating. Thank you for sharing your thoughts xo

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  10. Never heard of this chat before.

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  11. I would much rather have no topic and just be a place for bbloggers to ask for help, advice or give advice if they think its beneficial, share tips, or just talk with like minded people. I actually like when people share their links at this time and have found some great blogs to follow like that. There's no need for a #bbloggers gestapo! X

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    1. Me too, a lot of the blogs I follow and bloggers I engage with, have been through the hashtag. Thank you for sharing your thoughts xo

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  12. Well said. I saw loads of tweets from people claiming that you can't use the hashtag to promote your own blog/reviews/posts..erm, why not? Isn't that tag for sharing ideas? what better way to share opinions and get to know lots of different blogs than to use it to promote your blog? I felt like people were very snotty and acted like they were superior to others using the hashtag, simply because they have more followers or have been using it longer. I saw your tweets and agreed with them, so thanks for bringing this to wider attention.

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    1. I think the hash tag has been such a brilliant way not only to get my blog out there, but talk to other bloggers, and for that I am grateful for it. Thank you for sharing your thoughts xo

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  13. You invest way too much emotion into this, that this is actually even bothering you enough to blog about this! chillax, who gives a crap what some person says - we don't need the drama. do what you want - it's not like whoever can do anything about it. but don't let it turn into drama. we all surely have bigger problems then some pissy little chat on a sunday evening... i've been blogging for almost 2 years now and this blogging community creates so much unnecessary drama - it's way too much. i stay away and do my thing and i'd recommend that to anyone xx

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    1. This is not me investing emotion. I invest emotion into my life, towards friends, family, my partner, my University studies and my blog. This, is me sharing an opinion. At the time of the tweets, yes, 'emotion' was invested - I was angry. But trust me, this post is not spurred on by emotion. It is to gauge everyone's opinion. This is actually the first scenario in which I have experience drama. Every other experience I have had within the blogging community has been positive, helpful and left me with a valuable network of blogging friends. Thank you for sharing your thoughts xo

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  14. Well said! I directly tweeted the bloggers chat only once on sunday saying "Mine is mostly about beauty products I like and the odd outfit post #simples #bbloggers"
    I didn't even really continue to participate as I then went on to looking at everyone's blogs they were tweeting about because, as far as I could see, basically everyone never bothered chatting about the chosen topic, and started to have their own conversations aswell.

    And to be quite honest, I don't care where the #bbloggers hashtag originated from - it's still not owned by anyone regardless of who came up with the idea, that's like saying I can't use #fbloggers when I do an outfit post - which I'm fully entitled to do, even though fashion isn't my main focus. I still like that there is an hour dedicated to the chat, but why put so much effort into a topic - can't we all just talk about what we want to talk about, with whoever we want? Love the no specific topic idea!!

    but really, people need to chill out about the whole thing, *most* people started blogging for fun and to make new friends and talk to interesting people about things they are interested in. the people who think they are 'in charge' or whatever need to see it for what it really is - everyone is equal; regardless of how long you've been blogging, or how many followers you have or if you get free stuff (which is basically all the regurgitated topic conversations) - there are NO rules. Do what you like without being unnecessarily rude or mean to people, and everyone will get along fine, and if someone expresses a different opinion than you about something, unless you can be constructive or have a discussion about your reasons like an adult...keep it to yourself!

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    1. Me too, I think the no specific topic suggestion is a great one. I think I remember seeing your tweet, too. I basically agree with everything you just said. Thank you for sharing your thoughts xo

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  15. I don't have a blog and i don't use Twitter. However even i can see as a reader that there are many bloggers out there taking themselves way too seriously. They get their names out there, get a decent amount of followers and they're suddenly calling themselves "Beauty Gurus" (I'm not talking about the real gurus, just the wannabes). Often the best reads are the more modest ladies who spend more time on the blogs and less time trying to create a buzz. The wannabes seem to want to create a kind of elitist club where they get the power to pick and choose who they let in. It shouldn't be that way. Seems you rocked their boat so good on you ;-)

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    1. Unfortunately, I am strong willed. And I will not under any circumstances be treated like a child. I agree with you, but I think it is a select few bloggers who behave in this way, which often makes a bad impression of very popular bloggers who are simply sincere, honest and hard working bloggers, bloggers I even aspire to. Some people take it far too seriously, view themselves as above others and whether they realise they are doing it or not, treat others unfairly and in a belittling manner. Thanks for sharing your thoughts xo

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  16. I don't know. I have not taken part in #bbloggers for maybe six weeks, so I don't know how it's been recently, but more often than not I enjoy the chat. I vote for topics and sometimes a topic I've suggested has been chosen, which is fun.

    The #bbloggers tag is used in whatever way you like during any hour of any day minus that one hour. And, in actual fact, some 'bigger' bloggers were wanting that use taken away from us as well, and wanted us to only post links on #bbloggerspost. However, that never really stuck.

    The non-posting of links during #bblogger hour is common courtesy, don't get yourself upset at that. People want to chat, not be spammed.

    Yes, sometimes topics aren't very exciting, but if it's just a general 'chat', sometimes it's difficult to join in when it gets 'cliquey' as people are more inclined to chat to people they know and may as well be having a private conversation, if everyone is talking about different things.

    Again, I had taken a break from blogging so I don't know the specifics you're referring to, but I actually like the way #bbloggers is run right now, I like that there's a little bit of structure. I don't like people feeling like what they have to say isn't valued, if that is what happened to you.

    Just my two cents. :)

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    1. I personally have never been upset by posting links - It is not me personally who has been told I cannot. Personally, I don't think that if you aren't taking part in the chat, you can't use the tag. That you shouldn't promote your blog or chat with others. I don't think it's a case of common courtesy because if you look at it from the opposite end of the scale, it's basically saying people are allowed to segregate others, purely because they have no inclination to join a chat, do you see what I mean? I too liked the structure of a decided topic each week. But any enjoyment I had from taking part has completely disappeared after being dictated to like a child, despite there actually being no set rules, no guidelines and no ownership towards the chat. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts xo

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    2. But there are set rules, are there not? I thought Nykki had it on her blog. I could be wrong.

      I don't see the harm in chatting using the #bblogger tag at all, but spamming links is just not ok! People posting about entering their competitions every five minutes just clog up the feed. It is one hour a week, I'm sure they can hold back! Besides, the half hour after #bbloggers is a great time for sharing links and having more informal chats!

      Anyways, obviously Nykki now feels the pressure so it'll be interesting to see what happens now.

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    3. I have just looked - And yes, there are suggestions as to how to approach the chat. However, when only a few dozen people are even aware of the polls, the topic choices, or that she runs these (but as I said, has this week made it clear to me she has no authority on the chat nor owns it etc) these rules or guidelines are not available to everyone. Nor is everyone aware of them. Therefore I do not think people should be chastised for not knowing about this. And again, if people don't want to take part, should they really be segregated? xo

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    4. Also, she made it clear to me, on Twitter today and on other days, and on her own blog, she does not own bloggers chat nor did she come up with it. So rules or guidelines on her blog, albeit helpful suggestions, aren't always going to be followed. xo

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  17. Oh god how sad! Some people just take things way too seriously! Sadly, I think thats the downside of blogging, and having too many girls in the one place haha.
    A woman I used to follow got all raging that I called her 'stupid' once and just will not let it go. She said large tattoos on girls were "unclassy" so I called her stupid and hypocritical since she has a tiny hidden tattoo. Now this woman is blogging about me saying I shouldnt have spoke my mind. Like you, I say what I think but sometimes people need to take a step back and realise it is only a blog xox

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    1. I wonder what her thoughts must be on me ;) Tattoos seem to be a very tetchy subject amongst bloggers this week. I was personally attacked on Twitter yesterday for mine by another blogger.... Definitely agree. I mean, I love blogging. This has become something I look forward to doing, which I find soothing and enjoyable, something I now could not imagine not doing. But people do take things too seriously. Maybe on this matter I have too. But I needed, not wanted but needed, to know other people's opinions on this. Thank you for sharing your thoughts xo

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  18. I think that Nykki is under incredible pressure and people need to recognize that none of this reflects on the work that shes does. I agree some of the topics are a little conspicuous and hard to work with. But it should also be noted that the topics are suggested and voted by fellow #bbloggers which makes me wonder whether those that voted were actively involved in Sundays chat given the feedback it received. I know there are rules as such but with the #bbloggers community being such a large diverse one its going to be hard to please all and sundry. I have suggested before that perhaps the topics need to be binned and the time be used to meet new bloggers and just have a general chit chat.

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    1. I don't think this reflects on the work she puts in to it. As I said to her in private emails, and on Twitter today, she volunteered to do this, people who then decide to be mean towards her or take their aggression out on her, should be ignored. And as I said in the post, I can totally understand why and how this is and does stress her out. It's a big thing to take responsibility for. But when it gets to the point where the negatives outweigh the positives, a new approach is needed. I think that is a brilliant idea personally, free chat, without the need for unnecessary rules and regulations. Thank you for sharing your thoughts xo

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  19. I really liked last weeks chat, I don't very often get to take part because I have to go to work, but I think its whatever you make of it. The girls I chatted to about the topic were lovely, engaging and made the chat (for me) worthwhile. I think the #bbloggers chat should be free to post whatever you like, but there has to be some guidelines. I know people have gotten "told off" so to speak, for spamming their links several times. Now don't get me wrong the #bbloggers hash tag for me is a great way of finding new blogs and letting people know about your latest posts ect.. but there are some girls out there that DO abuse it and constantly spam. It gets boring (for me anyways) and annoying and I get why the hashtag has to have some moderation and "rules" and I get why some people get "told off". I think its nice to have a topic every sunday, after all thats how many of us got together and even made some friends out of it, I think its nice to have a poll and decide on a topic that we can chat about because if not, the bbloggers hashtag just becomes a mass of "new post" and link sharing.
    Thats just my opinion :) You may not agree with it but we can agree to disagree :D

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    1. Definitely - The topics are what you can make of it and like I said, I took part but didn't think I would be able to contribute much. Hence also asking if people would like to discuss other things with me, too. I'm glad to hear that you enjoyed the chat though! Thanks for sharing your thoughts xo

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  20. I agree with you that we should be able to tweet using the hash tag when we want. I do and didn't realise there was a certain time to use it. We are all adults and it's not a competition, shame it gets like this isn't it? I probably shouldn't use the hash tag as much as I do, I probably annoy people but never thought I could annoy someone. At the end of the day no one is boss xx

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    1. People have become far too reliant on the chat, a topic being decided, using the hashtag in general. Thanks for sharing your thoughts xo

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  21. I completely agree with you! At first the chats were great very helpful that people enjoyed but its the complete opposite now.
    You're right, the whole point of this chat is to be honest and express opinions and I don't think anyone has the right to stop you from doing that over the internet for gods sake! It really makes me angry that some assume that bloggers or Blogging is like a school where you must follow the rules. It's a hobby for a lot of us and a way of expressing, finding new blogs talking to people who share the same interest as you. I'm really happy and glad that you wrote this blog post! Hareem xx

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    1. I think it boils down to their being some bloggers who think anyone with a less following than them, is beneath them. And therefore they can be spoken to in a not so nice way. Which I don't think is very fair or right. Thanks for sharing your thoughts xo

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  22. I think it's ridiculous to try and dictate the bloggers chat. I think it's good to have some sort of structure by having a topic, but I don't think you should be chastised just for "straying" from the topic, or anyone for that matter.
    I for one had no idea about this poll, I wouldn't mind it if more people knew about it and voted! if it were well known and common knowledge, I would vote, of course.
    I think if every week it was just "right, let's talk about whatever!" it might get a bit mixed up and hard to figure out who's talking about what, so I think a general theme is fine, but people should be allowed to talk about other things too!
    Not to mention all the bitchiness on twitter at the moment, when I saw what that girl said to you about your tattoos I was disgusted.
    Personally, I'm planning on getting one small tattoo on my ankle, may seem a bit dorky but I want a deathly hallows symbol with "Always." written underneath in cursive writing. Very simple and all black, but I'm a Harry Potter nerd and it's all my childhood, so it would have meaning to me.
    So I definitely don't mind tattoos, and find it ridiculous to judge someone on their tattoos and piercings. If that's your thing, that's fine, it's your body and it doesn't affect anyone else! Your body, your choice, no one else's business.
    And either way, being a good, open minded person is more important than physical appearance anyway! xx

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    1. I think that is a massive issue with it - Hardly anyone, from what I have seen, has seen or knows about the poll! Thank you. Unfortunately, when you are as heavily tattooed as me, negative reactions are something you have to get used to! Thanks for sharing your thoughts xo

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  23. I'm so glad that someone had finally had the guts to write this post! I've been feeling really let down by the bloggers chat recently. I used to really enjoy it but now I think that some of the topics don't allow everyone to get involved fully! I agree with you 100% on what you have to say about it and definitely admire you for writing this. For most of us, blogging is a hobby and is part of our routine, not something that we want to be criticised about. Everyone has the right to voice their opinions.
    Love your blog and your honesty :)
    Katie (retrolove19.blogspot.com)
    Xx

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    1. I agree. I don't think anyone should be critised for not wanting to take part in the chat or for using the hash tag. We are all entitled to our opinions, so long as we present them fairly and respectfully, there should be no issues. Thanks :) And thank you for sharing your thoughts xo

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  24. I absolutely agree with you. When I first came across the hashtag and started using the chat, I had posted my link and asked for others 5 minutes beforebthe end and was immediately yelled at by 6 different people some nicer than others and basically told I was "doing it wrong" one even said "You're an idiot for posting early, no one will look at your link ever. Wait until the end" I was mortified and felt like quite the idiot. It was really intimidating to get back into the chat afterwards. I really enjoyed your post.

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    1. How can you 'do it wrong'? I don't understand that. And the other one you mentioned, was just plain rude and needs to chill out! I'm sorry you've had such a bad experience. Thank you for sharing your thoughts xo

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  25. I saw the conversation you're referring to on Twitter plus others where certain bloggers, including the one you have not named, tell people off for tweeting their blog links too early in the chat or for tweeting their links to other bloggers and calling it "spam". You just can't dictate the hundreds of people who join in the bloggers chat, so why should they worry? At the end of the day they can just unfollow or if they're using the hashtag, ignore the tweet and scroll to the next! I just don't get it. What happened to freedom of speech!! xx

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    1. This is something else I think is a big point - You aren't forced to respond to tweets on Twitter. If you see a tweet which you don't like, ignore it. Rather than go out of your way to be bossy, rude and upset people. Thanks for sharing your thoughts xo

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  26. I very rarely use the #bloggers or #bbloggers hashtags, simply because I forget :)

    The chat on Sunday always ends up as a general chat anyway and that's the way it should be, bloggers can talk about anything they want, anytime and can use all the hashtags under the sun, nobody should dictate anything.

    I am glad you wrote this post Sophia! x

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    1. Thank you my love, I am too. I feel a lot better for sharing my thoughts, and for hearing so many other opinions! Thanks for sharing your thoughts xo

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  27. I agree with what you've said here and thanks for sharing your thoughts with everyone though this post. I like to participate in the chats on Sundays if I'm at home, but often I have things on, though I like to have a quick read through what people have said at a later date.

    I don't think the topics are all that interesting most of the time and it seems like the same things are said constantly over and over again. I think people take these things far too seriously, when really it should just be a bit of fun and certainly never where people feel awkward or left out etc. It's never a good idea to have just one sole person dictating anything either! x

    http://wewereraisedbywolves.blogspot.co.uk/

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    1. I agree - No matter what the topic, everything happens to turn into the same conversation each week. I've noticed even myself do it, it gets repetitive! Thanks for sharing your thoughts xo

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  28. i didn´t knew it was a chat at a certain hour with a topic, i just use the hashtag zhen I want to, when I tweet about something that has to do with that tag. I think this system is a bit childish...
    Nathalie - http://curls-and-bags.blogspot.com

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    1. I think that's how it should be. Rather than an unenjoyable, strict, rule full experience. Thanks for sharing your thoughts xo

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  29. I agree wholeheartedly - I never have participated in the chats (I didnt know how they worked! Do now though) but I have found many blogs I now read via links posted using the #bbloggers hashtag on twitter and instagram (I think that's how I found this blog?) . And whilst I understand that someone might want to preserve the tag for its intended use (chats) things evolve. It's what they do, and there is no poing on staying in the past. I really don't see the harm in not participating in the chat or using the tag for other, blog related, business. It just seems plain silly! Xo

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    1. I think so too, very, very silly. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. xo

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  30. Oops, didn't realise it was a specific chat, I see #bbloggers appear in my Twitter feed every day of the week and will admit I've used it for general chat and finding blogs...
    The thing I have found since I started blogging in March, and I speak as a woman on the other end of my blog, a human, with feelings, is that there are a large number of bloggers who take it upon themselves to do thing after thing after thing and expect recognition and their rules to be adhered to. I dont agree with that kind of hierarchy in 'real life' so why people think they can get away with it online bemuses me.
    I am all for chatting to anybody about anything- I dont need a cue card as I can chat for England. We are all fully grown women intelligent enough to have started and maintain our own blogs, so I'm with you that maybe the reins need to be slackened a little!
    A brilliant and very diplomatically written post- it would have been easy to get personal but you didnt- good on you :) xx

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    1. Me neither! Especially when I am a grown woman with a mind of her own. Respect is given where respect is due and a lot of people in the blogging World need to realise that. Thank you! And thanks for sharing your thoughts xo

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  31. I actually came across this post bc of the hashtag, and I'm so glad I did! I agreed with everything you've written. Sometimes people take blogging too seriously, or try to treat it as a little club. The whole beauty of blogging to me is the interaction with people from everywhere. Xx

    ahhhdri
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    1. I definitely get that feel myself, as if some people put themselves in playground like groups. We are all adults, everyone should act as such. Thanks for sharing your thoughts xo

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  32. I completely agree with you too! I never knew there even was a "chat room" so to speak when you hashtag anything on twitter! LOL...I thought it was just a way for bloggers who have the same interests to find one another!! Glad I read this post though...you are right in everything you said! BTW love your blog subbing now...check mine out if you like jessriv91.blogspot.com would love to chat more about beauty with you!! I'm @iloveny91 on twitter!!

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    1. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and for your compliments towards my blog :) xo

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  33. Well said! You worded all of that perfectly! We're all adults, we can use the hashtag in whatever way we want! What's the point of not posting your link... how are people supposed to find you! I use the hashtag to get other bloggers attention, and to find blogs to follow! I LOVE when people include a link to their blog! It makes it that much easier!
    I will never participate in blog chat, mostly because of all the stuff I've heard, but mostly because I don't want to get involved with people like that... I'm happy to have private discussions with people I follow/people who follow me and use the hashtag however I see fit! :)
    Hope you don't get much hate from this! :)
    xx

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  34. I don't think the #bbloggers hashtag should be monopolised at all. Even if it's just for an hour of the day. Twitter is a public place, and as we all know, if you're in a public place there are certain things that you don't like, but you have to tolerate anyway. I hate the fact that I get spammed when I hashtag 'giveaway' or 'Justin Biebier'. But what can I do? Write a little blog post and tell people to agree that they will not spam me for a set period of time, because it's common courtesy? I don't think so.

    Don't get me wrong, I've taken part in the #bbloggers chat several times and enjoyed it. And during all the chats, I've seen loads of unrelated stuff, links and spams. It doesn't bother me for more than two seconds, I just scroll past it. The past two topics were not interesting to me, so I didn't take part.

    So I agree, you should be able to tweet whatever you want, whenever you want, using whichever hashtag you want. If there is some sort of unspoken rule about it or not, surely it is there to prevent people that mean to disturb the chat, which is not your case.

    People take rules far too literally and forget that each rule must accommodate exceptions. Not everyone that tweet using the #bbloggers hashtag during the chat is trying to disrupt. If there are moderators for the chat (which I think is a good thing for organisation purposes) these moderators should be looking at what was said using the hashtag and use their discretion to judge whether was said was aimed at disrupting the chat before approaching the person to say something.

    Even if something was aimed at disrupting the chat, I don't think anyone has the prerogative to tell someone off for that. In my opinion, it's more appropriate to tweet that person and ask them nicely if they would mind not 'spamming' until the chat is over.

    In a nutshell, it's all to do with how you approach people. I'm sorry about how you were treated. You didn't deserve to be treated like that and I honestly believe you did nothing wrong :)

    Ysis xx

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